Sometimes work and managing a business can become so frustrating. You ask yourself is it worth the fight? You always had this dream to have that dream job or your own business, but now there is this feeling like you want to give up. The market is saturated, customers are not purchasing as before, people are not that keen to sign up for any subscriptions and there are so many pro bono requests that are competing for your time. So, there is that question why do I do what I do? Is it worth it?
Don’t give up! Do something to release that frustration and all the emotions. We all have bad days, the down in the dump times, the desolate times. Take a long walk especially in nature, go dancing, have a list of songs that you can play, meditate, talk to a friend or your support, or just go shopping, invite some friends over. Whatever you do find something to release that frustration and rediscover why you accepted the job or went into your own business in the first place. Be happy and know that this too must pass.
The issue with having self-control is that it can be a challenge especially in business. It takes self-control to stay calm every time someone does not do something the way we want it, or even when someone offends us. This happens often in the business world, you have a meeting where everybody agrees that this is what will be done, but yet someone goes and does something completely different and throws off the plan. Then there is the client who is very abusive, but they are one of your best paying clients.
We need self-control in all that we do, if not at the end of the day we would be stressed, can’t sleep and eventually get sick.
Let’s not make it an issue but learn to control our thoughts, our words (maybe bite our tongues when we are about to say something that would offend someone) and keep an eye on your actions( remember action speaks better than words), in this way things would flow better, and our life would be better.
We all have plans to do various things. We want to build a new business, expand our business, get a new career or go further in our career. Plans, plans to do this and that. When you think about your plans or have your plans in your head you cannot review your plans. Write your plans down, then think about them before you go to sleep and ask God for direction.
Have you ever met a person and formulated your own impression of them just from how they look, only to realize later on that is not so?
I read a quote that said, “Do not judge by appearances; a rich heart may be under a poor coat” .
Too often we judge our customers (they can’t avoid it), business associates ( don’t like his attitude), even friends and family members wrongly.
When you judge from external appearances which we do so very often, we miss that beautiful person under that appearance, their strength, courage, wisdom, and their other skills and talents that we may be looking for. So before you judge get to know a little more about the person.
When you speak about self-awareness, some people really do not pay much attention to this.
Self-awareness is knowing yourself, your strengths and weaknesses. What makes you tick? What ticks you off? Knowing these help you to understand how you make decisions in your life and business.
Self-awareness helps you view your options in a more practical way, whereas for some people it is easier to be aggressive than explore options.
This week take a closer look at you – what do you like, don’t like, what ticks you off, who ticks you off and why and see how you can discover how to be more aware of you. As you continue to do this you would have a better response to life’s challenges.
We all want to move ahead, and we get very impatient when things are not moving or going the way we want it to be.
We thump our fingers, look at the person who is speaking in a certain way, we may even yawn or yell at someone to move faster. Have you ever been driving at the right speed, or the traffic light just turned green and someone behind starts peeping away even before the light turns green? So you know what I mean.
One thing for sure impatience will get us nowhere. Remember the person who was blowing his horn for you to move faster, and he over took you at such a speed, however you met him at the next traffic light? We may move a little faster, but go nowhere, so why not relax and be patient. No one can make the clock move faster. If impatience is a problem for you practice being at peace with yourself and don’t let anyone disturb that peace. This would be of great benefit to your business and your personal life.
All of us have visited the beach at one time or other. If you are like me, you may not be able to swim to save your own life, then you may know what I am speaking of. So, you sit on the beach for a while, then you move from the beach into the sea and you stay at the edge of the water or where you can safely stand, not realizing if you go further into the water it is not as deep as you thought.
We are afraid to dive into uncharted waters, not realizing if we go deeper the experience would be better. We are afraid to try our hands at anything new, because we do not want to look stupid or make a mistake, we want it to be perfect.
Everything in life involves trying something new, all the stuff we use their inventors tried something new, computers were new, social media was new. Even though some inventors failed but they went back at it and now everybody is using a computer or some aspects of social media.
Don’t be afraid to try something new with your business, dive into uncharted waters, try a new way of advertising, processing, or providing customer service, even providing a new product. You can even try new ways of communicating with your partner or friends or a new way of transportation. You will never know until you try!
Fear can cause you to do so many weird things. A friend of mine could not get a roommate and got so depressed to the point of not wanting to live anymore. Ask yourself what am I afraid of? When you look at it , sometimes the things you are so afraid of will happen never happens.
Now a days the crime situation is so concerning that some people go about life being so afraid that something will happen, they are afraid to go out, they are always looking behind their back. I recall for COVID19 people were so afraid to go out. Now people are walking the streets without masks, it is as if COVID19 has left, which is so far from the truth.
Take a good look at your business, your career and your relationships is fear holding you back from progressing in these areas?
Think about this, if we have the breath of God in us and we were created in his image and likeness, why are we afraid? Or are we afraid of him or just the idea having his breath?
We have all that we need to live a happy life, if we want to, let’s not be naive but acknowledge that we have help and there is no need to fear. Take things one day at a time. Look at each situation from end to end and explore your options before you start to panic or be afraid.
The difference between who you are and what you want to be is what you do.. Unknown
This statement is so true. You have so many good intentions, you may want to get more clients, ad a new product or service, get a new job or improve in the one you currently have, or just simply do some work in and around your home. These are all good intentions, but unless you get down and take action nothing would happen. Sometimes people could just look at your actions and know who you are.
Are you the one to just talk and talk, have all the ideas but no proper plan for execution?
Are you the one saying I want to be better at what I do, but no definite plan on how or when to get there?
Remember the saying – behavior never lies. It is time to take action to be what you want to be.
“Don’t limit yourself… What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” – Mary Kay Ash .
We all want to do better, to see the business improve, get better and what we do, or just be a better husband, wife or person in general. To achieve this we have to stop limiting ourselves.
How may times you get the opportunity to do something different with your business, add a new product or service or look at a different way to produce or deliver what you offer? Your response goes something like this: I/we do not have the capacity; no resources to look at that; that’s not part of our business line; no one is going to purchase that. Even before you research the option the rejection walls go up. Why limit yourself?.There are so many different options for diversifying your business, what would happen if you try a new option for delivery, production or even for getting new clients? If you believe your business can do better then it can.
On the side of personal development many of us are hesitant to try new things, we are happy with what we have but most times it may not be working the way we would Ike it to be. Any new idea or option surfaces red flags go up: I can’t do that; I do not have the skills; they need someone younger or older for the job; I am not an early person so that would not work for me; I have two left feet so I can’t dance; I don’t like sports so don’t’ even suggest that. I would like us to go out more often but that’s not my husband thing, he loves his private time; I could be more loving, but I am afraid I make a fool of myself. Every day we have the opportunity to develop and improve. We can do new things, try new ways of doing what we are accustomed of doing. What if it does not go as you would like, it is from trying that you learn and develop, so don’t limit yourself.
If you limit yourself to doing the same things the same way all the time nothing is going to happen, and you can forget about being like your old self. That old self or the way you use to do things have changed. Every day you have the opportunity to be something new, to do better in your business and your life, and by the way if you don’t grab the opportunity, you end up just swaying with the flow unable to stand properly on your two feet. If you believe you can achieve it then you can.