Take time to reset. June is almost over. Where are you with your goals. Maybe it is time to reset your priorities.
What is important to you right now? Have your priorities change?
Sometimes we refuse to relook where we are, maybe because we feel that things would get better. We tell ourselves that it would change, although nothing changes. When last did you sit and look to see where you are:
How are you doing in your relationship? Are you satisfied with how it is going? Are you spending quality time with your loved ones? Do you know what’s going on with them?
What about your job? Are you happy with your job? Do you feel a sense of accomplishment? What can you do better?
How is your business going? Are you getting new clients? have you been able to maintain your client database to encourage repeat business? How can you improve your business?
The bills would cnmtinue to come and pile up. It is not too late to make some changes. You a half way through the year so there is still time to finish strong at year end. Take the time now and reassess where you are . Do it now or you would forget or find an excuse not to deal with it.
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The best decisions are made when you quiet the mind. Some people make decisions at the spur of the moment and others when they are hyped up or feel pressured or when everything is chaotic.
Most times when we make decisions at the spur of the moment, we regret taking that position. Imagine there is an aggressive customer, and you give him a discount or a better rate then realize that was not the best option. There are also those persons who during an argument they say things and do things without thinking only to realize that must have been one of the worst decisions they made.
Every second of the day we are making decisions. There are the life questions where we need to decide:
What do I eat?
What do I wear?
What do I say?
Where do I go?
How do I live?
Then there are other questions like:
What business should I be in?
Is this the right option for my career or my business?
What do I tell the client?
How do I meet my goals?
There are so many decisions to make and one of the most important guides is to b present and make your decision from a point of knowledge and quietness. It is in the quiet times you can explore all your options and select the one that best suits your challenge at that time. You do not even need to be alone just some quiet times with friends can bring you to a point of recognizing what you need to do.
We may try to plan and plan but never know what would happen next, so take a page from Ernest Hemingway: “Before you act, listen. Before you react, think. Before you spend, earn. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try. Before you die, live”.
It is always a good idea not to make decisions in a haste or when you are angry or tired. The best decisions are made when you take a moment and think before you do anything. Is it easy? No! Imagine being on the job or in the business and have a number of persons coming to you for help or guidance. To be able to think about your decisions you have to practice. Practice daily and you would see an improvement.
This week strategy is to practice never assuming you have all the answers.
You know when something comes up or someone comes to you and you are quick to provide an answer. It is like you have an answer for everything. A plaster for every sore. The thing is you would never have all the answers so stop tackling your brain or being stress out because you can’t find a solution or answer to some challenge.
This does not mean that you have to stop looking for the answer, you have to always be alert for answers and opportunities but you would never have all the answers. That is just life, we all were not made to be prophets or persons with word of knowledge. So relax and let life be.
What a mess. Have you ever met someone and after asking how is everything the answer is ‘lot of mess going on’.
What really is mess? What do they mean? They are really say that things are not going as they would like it and they keep trying to clean up the mess, but once they clean that set, another set comes up. That’s life. Life can be very messy, so many things happening at one time and you are just there with the mop or dust cloth trying to clean up everything. Have you ever notice right after you clean if you look hard enough there is more dust? Actually if you look closely you would notice the dust in the air just waiting to settle.
If you go about trying to clean up everything and being stressed about it life would be very challenging. Life at times gets messy. There would always be something not going right or the way you want it to go and you want to clean up it up. It is like in the office something goes haywire and the boss says – ‘clean it up’.
Lets’ look at some examples of mess in your life:
You promised the client one thing and went you went to the boss but he says no, and says deal with the client. Your reputation is at risk. What a mess!
There was a fight in school and your child is involved and other children, one of them is a child of a high profile client of yours. Your child was the one who started the fight. Mess!
The office has been gossiping about you being involved with your secreatry, you are happily married but has a soft heart towards the secretary and your boss found out about it. Wow! Mess!
Your sister has had a mental break down and comes outside your office and accuses you of all different things. Mess!
I am sure you can identify a lot more of these things happening in your life.
All mess can be cleaned up in a satisfactory manner and it does not have to be stressful. It is always how you respond to the situation. Every messy situation provides the opportunity to develop. It does not have to be called a mess it can be called a CHALLENGE.
Today and this week start renaming the mess in your life look at them as challenges and look for the opportunity to develop. You see without these mess or challenges there is no opportunity to grow, to see things from a different perspective. Remember the roses they all have thorns but they are so pretty. Life was never meant to be a bed of roses.
Never think for one moment that the game is over. You see when you least expect something turns up.
Sometimes the team is at the losing end and on the last minute a goal is scored. If that team just gave up that goal would never be scored.
So it is with life somewhere around the corner is that unexpected open door, that opportunity you have been waiting for, the client or the sale that you had given up on, or even that failed relationship. So get up, lift those shoulders walk upright and put a smile on your face and expect the unexpected, as the game is not yet over.
Whoever heard of roses without thorns? So it is with life, no one can say that they do not have any challenges or thorns in their lives.
If we want to achieve our goals there is always a struggle, those unexpected circumstances or thorns that just suddenly appear from nowhere and you want to pull out your hair over them.
It happens to all of us you design an outfit for a client, they know about it then all of a sudden they no longer want it, or you followed a client for his business and on the last minute the transaction cannot go through. Even on the job you were banking on a client to come through, you were already smelling the roses, you already included it in your targets as a done deal, and bam, the client no longer wants the product.
These things could throw you off in a real bad way, as the negativity could crawl in. You tell yourself, there has to be a better way. You look at that rose bush, so pretty, nature at its best, but to get to the rose you have to pass through the thorns. That is life, so wake up smell the roses and recognize that all these unexpected circumstances are there to help you reach your goal. You are going to build some stronger muscles of stamina, focus, more energy and drive to try bigger things. When you pick that rose you know you have done it and you could do it again and much better. Never look at unexpected circumstances as stress and no way out, see them as challenges that must be overcome.
Every now and again someone may tell you – “What were you thinking?”
Sometimes you do or say things and in retrospect you ask yourself – “What was I thinking?”.
Nothing happens without a thought. The chair you are sitting on began with a thought, whatever you are using to read this blog, a laptop or cell phone began with a thought.
The thing with thoughts is that you have to be focus on what you are thinking, you have to be present. This is important because your thoughts determine your actions. if every action begins with a thought then the appropriate thing to do is be focus when making decisions that affect your business and personal life.
You cannot act on every thought. It is said that customers are always right. Imagine a client is complaining about a refund and without investigating you provide a refund only to realize this was not necessary. On the personal side you see your husband or wife talking in a very friendly way to an ex and you go berserk, before identifying what’s going on.
This week remember to be present and focus on what you are doing this could avoid you a lot of pain later on.
Sometimes you just have to let things fall. As we go through the day and life ,not everything would fall in place, and no matter what you do it still does not fall in place.
You know what I am talking about, you maybe trying and trying with a business transaction, or with some aspect of your business, a client, someone in the office, a personal matter, or even a family member and nothing you do is moving the situation to where you want it to be. Maybe it is time to let it fall, just let nature takes its course. Let all the stress, anxiety with the challenges fall.
No one said life was going to be perfect. Life is a combination of the good and not too good. Start exploring the what ifs and how to pick up the pieces. Picking up the pieces maybe just the right thing you need as it gives you time to start fresh, take the pieces you want and leave the rest behind. Call it creating the new life that you want and move on.
There are so many excuses to stop you from advancing in life or really doing what is required.
Think about it, you have what it takes to progress and there is nobody holding you back but you.
You decide what color hair makes you feel happy or that you are not going to do this type of business, you decide that you do not have what it takes or that you have no business or sales skills. Don’t even look at management as you already made the decision that management is not for you.
Even in your personal life you make the decision not to love, not to compromise, you say I like my freedom yet you want to be in a relationship. You say I want to be loved but you decide not to love.
You are the only one holding yourself back, you have the freewill to make your own decisions, so use that freewill wisely.
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