Most people try to be perfect, all lines must be straight, all ‘Ts’ crossed and all ‘Is’ must have their dots. You know them they are always moving things, straightening them or correcting your grammar etc.
Some people would not start something unless they are sure it will turn out perfect. The thing is you don’t have to be perfect, it’s the perfect effort that you put out that would go a long way.
Perfection sometimes prevents you from trying new things, a new job or position, a new business, adding new products or services to your current business or even meeting with new friends or starting a relationship.
Think about it, what it is you have been thinking about trying and you are of the view it must be perfect before you start? What if you try it? What is the worse that can happen?
There comes a time when enough is enough. At work it is as if the boss has moved his/her address to you. Nothing you do seems to be right in their eyes, even though a couple of days ago that was exactly how they wanted it done. Even the customers are getting more and more challenging to handle. It is so bad that you have to drag yourself to work some mornings.
Looking at your relationship at home nothing you do seems right anymore, and there are more disputes than romance. It is like the love is no longer there. You ask yourself – what is happening?
You feel like it is time to throw in the towel, call it quits.
Sometimes we fail to recognize that relationships matter and just like a car or a house they must be maintained. Whether it is in an employer/employee relationship or a husband/wife or just a friend/friend both parties must work it, if it is to be successful. As the saying goes – it takes two to tango, it is the same in the relationship. There must be agreements on the expectations of the relationship, each party must do their part. There must be compromise, if one person misses a step in the tango, the other tries to cover up so it appears seamless.
You can’t dance the Tango by yourself neither can you get married by yourself. Marriage is a huge decision, it is a commitment, it involves a lot of compromise. Some people can’t deal with the commitment, so they live together. This option gives you the freedom to throw in the towel, pick up when the going gets rough and move on, but this not really a life commitment as marriage is. When people break up the kids are the ones that are affected the most.
Even in a job ,that employee/employer relationship is huge. When you decide to throw in the towel a lot of people are affected including your family.
It may make sense to practice a pause and think of your decisions before you go into them. Is this job really right for me? What am I bringing to the job? How is it satisfying my other needs beside financial? Or is this person right for me, can I live with them for the rest of my life no matter what? Think of this – see me and come live with me is a different thing.
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This week we want to focus on our unfinished projects. How many projects or activities have you started that you have not finished?
We all have stuff that we say we will do and started them as the saying goes, we start them ‘hot and sweaty’ and yes never finished. Remember the course that you signed up for and never started or you did one or two classes and that was that, or what about the gym class where you went one day and never went back. The kettle that’s stop working that you started to take apart, you had all good intentions to repair it, or the draw that gives trouble to close and yes you want to repair it but it has never happened although you started.
If you look around the house or think about your life there may be so many unfinished business or projects.You must choose to write your own story, finish what you start, don’t leave things hanging. There is a sense of accomplishment when you finish what you start. You see If you do not finish what you start you will always be waiting , there is a sense that something is missing, so this week make a list of all those things that you started and take action to bring them to closure.
You are your biggest obstacle so finish what you started and open the way for new things to happen.
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Is it time to make space for your greatness? Are you holding on to things too tightly? You want to move on in life, you want to see things get better, want your business to improve, however the things to make a difference are the ones you are holding on to.
Let’s look a little further:
– Are there beliefs that you have that need to be parked at the side? Beliefs about yourself, your skills, talents, your self worth?
– What about your relationships? Are there relationships that you need to review?
What about your business ?
– Are there things that you do that really do not make sense but it is still happening?
– Do you need to review and revamp your procedures?
– Maybe get someone to review your processes?
Think about it, the only way you can make space for your greatness, for you to shine and move forward is to let go of certain things that are keeping you back, and create space for new things, new ideas, new relationships that support you.
